You may still have questions or concerns about relationship therapy…
Shouldn’t I be able to handle this on my own?
Up to this point, you have been handling it on your own. However, there comes a time when your coping strategies don’t alleviate stress anymore. By now, you’re likely exhausted trying to handle everything on your own. In therapy, you can learn tools that better equip you to heal distress at the root and get you where you want to be faster.
No one can do everything on their own. There are times when we all truly need additional support. Whatever you’re going through, you are not alone. There are ways to live outside this misery.
I doubt therapy will work.
If you’re struggling, you likely want to feel better as soon as possible. However, therapy doesn’t always work like that. Feeling better ebbs and flows, like life. Some days, you’ll walk away renewed and refreshed; others, you’ll walk away with more questions than answers. Both results are steps toward deep, lasting growth.
In the beginning of our work together, we’ll define expectations and discuss reachable goals. Every step of the way, you should feel as though you’re progressing toward a greater purpose.
I worry about what issues will emerge during therapy.
If you’ve found this page, chances are you are harboring deep-seated pain you’ve felt unable to address. Part of the work we do in therapy is building resiliency, so you can tolerate and handle whatever life throws at you. Whatever you’re keeping in, it doesn’t need to continue to keep you stuck.
There may be something specific you’re been afraid to talk about. That’s exactly the kind of thing you want to address with a therapist—someone who is trained to deal with a variety of scenarios and able to provide unconditional support. And, we always move at a pace that feels comfortable for you. Although I can’t promise that therapy will be easy, addressing whatever has been keeping you stuck can be tremendously freeing. You can come out of this feeling more like yourself.
You may still have questions or concerns about substance use counseling…
I’m worried you’re going to tell me I have a problem and have to stop.
People come to me for different reasons. Some want and need to stop drinking, others are coming in because they are scared, want an opinion and are seeking support. If unhelpful habits have become dysfunctional, that is something we can discuss and examine here. I find it rewarding to work with clients who hold a deep curiosity for examining their lives.
I’m the partner looking for support for spouses of addicts, but I wonder how getting help for myself helps my partner.
It’s possible that initiating positive changes yourself will positively affect your partner and your relationship. However, whether or not our work helps your partner can’t and won’t be the entire focus. You’re important and should be valued and not forgotten.
When I went to counseling seeking support for myself as a partner of an alcoholic, it took me awhile to focus on myself and advocate for my own needs. Here, I can help you reconnect to your true values and hopes.
If I change, I’m afraid of who I’ll be and what my life will look like.
It’s true that sobriety will change your life. Substance use counseling can help you make incremental changes, so it doesn’t feel drastic. Trust me when I say there are ways to live better without losing yourself. Healing doesn’t have to be about what you’re losing; it can be about facilitating the life you want for yourself.
You may still have questions or concerns about working with a group…
Will I need to attend group therapy sessions every week?
During the consultation process, we discuss committing to 8-12 weeks. I realize that life is busy, but commitment is very important to this process. For example, if you were to miss three sessions, the group may move on without you. By dedicating your time and energy to just a few months of work, you can grow along with people who share your challenges and goals.
I’m afraid that other people in the group will judge me.
Everyone has judgments and biases—that’s simply part of human nature. However, the point of therapy is not to judge one another. The focus is on helping folks understand their own judgments and biases and how those stand in the way of forming relationships. By doing this, you can learn new ways to connect with yourself and others.
I just want to make friends. Is that okay?
That is a great question. Although sessions are designed to help you better manage relationships, group counseling offers another kind of closeness. At the beginning, I ask for you all to maintain relationships in the group setting only. When you form relationships outside of the group, that often can creates cliques and leaves others behind, which can affect everyone’s experience.
After group therapy sessions have concluded, you are welcome to stay in touch. And, the relationships you create in the group can help you form and deepen other types of relationships throughout your life.