Has Addiction Impacted Your Life Significantly?


Perhaps you are struggling with dependence on… Alcohol, relationships or something else, and you can think of little else but your next release. You may harbor deep feelings of guilt and shame, especially if you are hiding your use from everyone or worry you’ll soon be found out. Or, perhaps you have been exposed, and now you’re facing consequences at work, home and possibly with the law.

Perhaps you are in recovery… Finding life more difficult that you ever could have imagined. Maybe you thought everything would fall back into place, but you’re running into residual relationship issues and trouble establishing your identity. When sober, you may not know how to navigate your various roles and long for healthy ways to manage distress.

Perhaps you are a partner in an addicted relationship… And you’re hurt by the actions of your partner. Perhaps you even blame yourself or feel ashamed and wonder why you’re not enough—why you’re not worth quitting for. You may feel very isolated, even disconnected from yourself and unable to talk about it.  It could be that you spend so much time and energy thinking or talking about your partner that it feels like you are not living for yourself anymore.

Addiction is difficult at all stages for everyone involved… Because it can affect every aspect of life. It can result in stormy relationships, trouble with the law, chronic physical and mental health issues and more. When the addiction takes priority, everything else can come crashing down.  Whatever role or stage of addiction you find yourself experiencing, you may be looking for a way to slow down, breathe and feel confident about your future.

You Are Not Alone

If addiction is taking over your life – whether you are struggling with substance use yourself or you are in a relationship with an addicted partner – you are not alone. 

People often use substances as a way to numb underlying anxiety, depression or trauma. That is why it’s so difficult for some individuals to abstain and adjust to life in recovery, because that coping mechanism is gone.

Addiction can numb both “positive” and “negative” feelings, until the person is no longer themselves…they are just a shell of who they used to be. In a couple dynamic, the partner often ends up feeling helpless and the addicted person can feel hopeless. It’s common for both parties to experience similar emotions throughout the addiction, however they manifest in different ways. In the recovery stages, it’s also completely normal to struggle to mend the unhelpful dynamic and reclaim your identity as individuals and as a couple.

No matter what you’re going through, you shouldn’t have to take this on alone. A knowledgeable substance abuse counselor can help you identify, process and overcome whatever is driving the addiction or unhealthy relationship dynamics.

Counseling Can Help You Cope With The Pain And Move Forward

As the person struggling with dependence or addiction… Substance abuse counseling is hugely effective in helping you learn how to address pain and emotions in healthier ways. Once you’re able to process the underlying pain that drives the dissatisfaction and addictive behavior, then you can overcome barriers and create more positive prospects for the future.

In a safe, compassionate space, we can dissect your cycle of use. You’ll come to understand why you use, the feelings and sensations that occur leading up to your use and how you feel when you are using. Once we identify your patterns, we then can move toward replacing unhelpful coping strategies with healthier options.

As the partner… You have the opportunity to examine your role in the relationship and cultivate greater joy and fulfillment—on your terms. So many spouses in an addicted partnership become completely engulfed in their partner’s issues and lose sight of themselves. Here, you can reconnect with your innermost concerns, wants and needs and move toward a life with more peace and freedom.

In relationship counseling, you’ll have a space that is 100 percent dedicated to you, where you might be lacking this in your partnership at home. In return, you’ll gain useful insights about how to create healthy boundaries and communication. Living with an addicted partner can be a frustrating and lonely experience, even in the recovery phase. Here, you can finally let go and reconnect with who you are.

Substance abuse therapy… Meets you where you’re at—whether you’re just noticing the beginning signs of addiction, struggling with recovery or looking for support as a spouse or partner. Here, you can expect to be challenged to grow, to understand yourself and acquire skills that allow you to break free from the trap you’ve been stuck in and move forward with your life.

I am a licensed professional counselor with an emphasis in addictions. I have a great deal of experience and a high success rate working with substance use as well as with individuals affected by addiction. I’ve also been there. I know what it’s like to live with an addicted partner and how much pain and anger the experience can create. With my support, you can finally break away from the cycle of distress and move onward.

You may still have questions or concerns about addiction counseling…

I’m worried you’re going to tell me to quit in alcohol abuse counseling.

People come to me for different reasons. Some want and need to stop drinking, others are coming in because they are scared, want an opinion and are seeking support. If unhelpful habits have become dysfunctional, that is something we can discuss and examine here. I find it rewarding to work with clients who hold a deep curiosity for examining their lives.

I’m the partner looking for support for spouses of addicts, but I wonder how getting help for myself helps my partner.

It’s possible that initiating positive changes yourself will positively affect your partner and your relationship. However, whether or not our work helps your partner can’t and won’t be the entire focus. You’re important and should be valued and not forgotten.

When I went to counseling seeking support for spouses of addicts, it took me awhile to focus on myself and advocate for my own needs. Here, I can help you reconnect to your true values and hopes.

If I quit, I’m afraid of who I’ll be and what my life will look like.

It’s true that sobriety will change your life. Substance abuse counseling can help you make incremental changes, so it doesn’t feel drastic. Trust me when I say there are ways to live better without losing yourself. Healing doesn’t have to be about what you’re losing; it can be about facilitating the life you want for yourself.

Discover Your True Self

If you’re interested in learning more addiction counseling, please contact me or call 720.590.4755 or email melissa@recovermecounseling.com for a free 30-minute consultation. My office is located in Denver, CO.